What would you say if you found out your favorite sports team did warm up before a huge rivalry game? I know that I would be upset, especially if they ended up losing that game. But isn't it funny that most of us do not warm up in life? We play life cold!
This past week I was doing some preliminary work for a speaking engagement and I quickly became frustrated by the amount of time it was taking me to prepare. As I sat thinking of stories, examples, jokes and phrases that would capture my audience, it hit me... I wasn't giving myself enough time to warm up to the process of being creative. I was trying to jump straight into my talk without warming up my creative process! I was expecting amazing results without warming up.
I took a break and refocus my efforts. I gave myself more time to warm up and I rid myself of all distractions. After an hour of working, I started to feel myself get in the grove... I was...
This past week has been a challenging one for me in all honesty. Wrestling with questions about life, how to live it, how to make it better, how to be more intentional and how to make be significant. Many times this week I found myself frustrated with where I am. "Nathan you should be further than this!", "What is holding you back?", "Face your fertilizer and deal with it!". However, as the week passed, I found myself beginning to place responsibility, really blame for where I am... on situations, circumstances and people. However I was hit between the eye when someone in my inner circle said "BE HUMBLE AND OWN YOUR SHIT!". Immediately I was given the choice... Either own my fertilizer and make a growth opportunity, or stick it in the backyard of my mind and let it culminate. I think you know which decision is more detrimental. I don't know where you are today. Maybe things are going great, maybe life is danndy....
How much time do you spend reflecting? I will be honest with you, I am not the best at it. It is a practice that I am working to make habitual. But why is this so important?
I believe that if we do not slow down long enough to reflect upon improvement, we will never grow to reach our full potential of who we could be.
Recently I was on a trip and it seemed like everything that was going wrong. The flight was canceled, the rental car was a disaster, and our hotel was never booked with the third party agency. The hotel would not have been a problem, except there was an event in the area and every hotel was booked. In the midst of this event I thought that I had acted appropriately. However, as I took time to reflect a couple days after returning from our trip. I realize that I could have handled the situation better.
Have you had a similar experience like mine? Or maybe you have experienced “off...
Many people get ready to get ready. Maybe you would like to learn to play the piano. You research teachers in your area and maybe even call around for schedules but then you stop short of setting up your first session. Why is this? Why is it so hard to get started? It’s very simple. Fear.
Fear is a debilitating emotion that can keep you from reaching your full potential. We all have fears and many of us have learned that until we conquer our fears, we are stuck. We can’t start that project or that goal or achieve that which we so desire.
How do we start when we are scared stiff? Instead of working on the fear, let’s try a different approach and let’s look at the end result. Using the piano example, maybe this has been a dream all your life to learn but you never had the chance; circumstances got in the way. And now you have the time and you have the means to get the lessons but you are afraid. What...
Can you feel it? It’s that time of the season where drama seems to be at an all-time high. Whether it’s from the holidays, visiting family or maybe just life itself. Drama always comes up during this season of life.
How many times have you heard someone say – I don’t want any drama in my life. That is a very trendy term right now and if you or someone you know is single and dating – that is tossed around like please and thank you!
Everyone claims to hate drama but somehow we find ourselves in it way too often. Some of us are drama junkies and thrive for it as it gives us a sense of importance. Some us create it and then swoop in as the savior to “fix” whatever caused it. How would you like to learn how to navigate through drama with ease?
What is drama? It is defined as a situation that involves conflict leading to a climax.
Wow. Does that change your view of drama already?
So many people wish life was easier, with less challenges and obstacles but without challenges, life becomes stagnant and we stop growing. Challenges help us uncover and discover who we are and it allows us to become better people.
First, state the problem clearly. When we are faced with challenges, we tend to avoid the issue and run the other way burying our heads in the sand hoping it goes away. Or we may say – ok, there is an obstacle, instead of heading right to it and plowing through, I am going to look for another path and even though that is not the way I want to go – it looks easier… less headache… but rarely does that work out. When we avoid or go out of our way, we cause more headache in the end. It takes more of our time, it takes more of our energy and we don’t get the end...
Behavior defined can be a physical thing one does such as a morning routine and it can be non-physical such as replaying negative thoughts all day long. A few behaviors are instinctual and built in while the rest are learned through meeting needs. What this means is that our behaviors are motivated by our needs and therefore we can be manipulated as well as manipulate to have our needs met.
So when we have negative behaviors and we want to change them, we find it isn’t always so easy because these learned behaviors that we exhibit are actually rather complex.
There are two types of motivation – the motivation to approach something and the motivation to avoid something. When we desire something, we are motivated to approach it therefore receiving positive reinforcement or feedback. When we avoid something, we are motivated to move away from it or we will receive negative reinforcement or feedback. This is pretty simple. We...
So many people wish life was easier, with less challenges and obstacles but without challenges, life becomes stagnant and we stop growing. Challenges help us uncover who we are and it allows us to become better people.
Let’s examine a very simple 4-step method to overcoming challenges.
Practice this method on small challenges and see how easy it is to overcome. Then try it on the big rocks!